LIFE IN YELLOW

Thursday, January 29, 2004

Dear Exam Administrator,
 
This is a pretty confusing test. It's multiple choice, yet I'm supposed to check all answers that apply and write essays explaining my answers. Then, halfway through the exam, additional answer choices are given. What if I had already finished? The Professional Engineer exam better not be this hard. Here goes:
 
In this hypothetical situation, perhaps our inexperienced and distracted hero had thought the girl probably didn't want to come on a long drive to see people she didn't know. The girl might have rather done something else or have had responsibilities on the farm. Our hero isn't sure what to think of the girl with the strawberry scent. She is scary (in a good way), and she is really fun. His friends in the wintry far off town had said she would be welcome and have a place to stay in the closet under the stairs if she did come.
 
Our hero, on the eve before his departure, realizes a more considerate course of action would be to invite the girl and let her decide for herself. She could make the journey more enjoyable, he rationalizes, and if she gets too scary I can make her walk home.

Sharpen Your Pencils and put on your Thinking Caps, this is a multiple choice Exam.

1. Given the following scenario,

There is a cute nerdy (In a Good Way!) boy who is going on an overnight trip into unknown depths of an Eastern State to visit old friends. There is a scary (in a good way?) girl who in is new to the East and would like to explore and see as much of it as she can during her stay. She also likes to spend time with the boy and thinks he's an adorable nerd-in-a-good-way; exactly her type. Her stay in the East could be as short as five months, OR it could last years. She just doesn't know, which hightens her urgent desire to see as much as quickly as possible, or find a reason and way to stay.

Which course of action most nearly matches the one that will happen: (Mark all that apply)

__The boy goes and has a great time. The girl stays at home writing children's stories, and wondering what would have happened had she had the guts to say she was really interested in going along.
__The boy never even considered inviting her, she's too scary, so he didn't.
__The boy thought of inviting her, but didn't want to be too forward, so he didn't.
__The boy thought of inviting her, but was embarrased at the idea of introducing this girl to his friends, so he didn't.
__His friends have a very small place, and he didn't invite the girl because there would be no room for her.
__The scary girl forced the boy to let her come along by threatening death by tickles.
__The boy decided to do something he'd never done before, casting out all fears (of the girl, and the severe teasing that would result among friends and family about the girl), and take the girl - introducing her to his friends as the girl he was currently:
__Afraid of
__Seeing
__Dating
__Kissing
__Using to Learn how to kiss
__Afraid to kiss because he hadn't really had experience, and knew she had, so it made him nervous
__Giving a chance to see somewhere she's never seen before
__Humoring
__Tickling
__Really Really afraid of
__Experimenting with the notion that taking care of strange Daughters of God was part of his Priesthood Responsibility
__The boy had asked his friends if he could bring a friend along, and they said, NO WAY!
__Something came up, and the boy couldn't go
__For reasons beyond all description, the girl could not go
__Due to top secret matters, the whole "visiting friends" was a guise that he presented for the girl so she would leave him alone for what he was REALLY doing for the weekend.
__He thought it would be inappropriate to invite a girl along for a trip like this.
__He cried out Leave Me Alone You Scary Girl!!!
__He cried out You're Very Interesting You Scary Girl, (in a good way!)!!!

Essay explaining your choices:


Remember, there are no wrong choices. Just different consequences.
Good Luck. This is a timed exam. Please respond before it is too late.

Go!

(Later, there was an amendment with added options... which I don't remember now)

Yeah! I think I'm going on a mini-trip with Derek this Friday/Saturday. His response to my email quiz was fantastic and made me laugh out loud right here in the office. And it wasn't even a short guffah. It was a real laugh that lasted for a bit. Nobody cared well enough for me to get to share what he actually said with anybody. Maybe I'll copy and paste the emails here...

Derek is going somewhere in Central Pennsylvania to visit old friends of his. I sent him a cute quiz email to sorta ask if I could come along. We'll find out if this was too forward, or if I get to go...

Waiting. Suspense. Derek's Cute.

Wednesday, January 28, 2004

Something must be done. I've been with Derek three times since our first kiss, and he always gets just as nervous when its time for a goodbye kiss.

I want to get him over this nervousness, but at the same time I want him to know that he's more important to me than his ability to kiss. I don't want him to get so wrapped up in being nervous about kissing that it affects other things, you know? How to handle this... Hmmm...

On the really bright side, I talked with Idaho White, and things couldn't be better. We're exactly on the same page of not really wanting to totally let go of eachother, but not really seeing our relationship turning into any kind of life long commitment. So it's totally ok if we seriously pursue other people, but we will still be friends and there to support eachother.

Whenever I tell someone about a breakup and use the words "we'll stay friends" they say Yeah Right. But so far, it's always happened. Most of my best friends are ex-boyfriends. Once I've truly loved someone, the Care for them doesn't go away, just the nature of my love and commitment. So, Idaho-White and I WILL remain good friends, and both of us are happy about things.

Monday, January 26, 2004

It Happened, I did it! WaaHooo!

So, we went out on Friday night, that was nice. I was supposed to go to his place Saturday, but it was snowing, and I started to get sick, and well.... He decided he would come over to my place. I teasingly bugged him about how many girls he's kissed, since he's only had -in his words- "pseudo girlfriend." He got really shy and couldn't answer me. It was obvious, none.

So we watched finding Nemo, but I have seen it so many times that I couldn't concentrate and just kept talking to him. He didn't seem to mind paying attention to me, and then began the tickling and the hand holding and... It began to get really late. We talked about him leaving again and again, but he just didn't get up. We cuddled, and it was fun and I could tell he was nervous and wanted to kiss me, but I just didn't want to be the one to make the move and be too forward.

So, I was walking him to the door and he noticed the story I had read to him the night before: "The Three Questions" by Muth (based on Tolestoy).

"Do you remember the three questions?" he asked.
"Of course."
"Who is the most important person, what is the most important time, and I forget the third."
"What is the right thing to do," I looked at him.
"What do you think the right thing to do is?" I blushed, and kinda looked away. But, I turned back, and he still wouldn't kiss me, though he really wanted to.

So we tried again,
"So you see, it's not a waste of time hanging out with me. I'm helping you study for your engineering test. It's Yellow Time."
(This will only be understood if I let you know we had a previous conversation about traffic lights.)
"That's right!"
"So the question is do you speed up or slow down for the yellow light." I said.
"What do you do?" He asked.
"That depends on what it is we're talking about," and he really blushed. But he still just stood there.

"You're really nervous, aren't you?" I said.
"Yes"
And before I new it I had my arms around him and was kissing him. He almost was okay, but then his lips went really tight as he was too nervous to kiss back. "I really have no idea what to do" he admitted.
"Just relax," I said. And he did right away. A real kiss, and then it was goodbye. He'd obviously never kissed before, but this was by far the most precious first kiss I've ever been a part of - even if he was so tight lipped and nervous. It makes a great story.

After church I went to his place for dinner, and he was still adorably nervous. I finally got real compliments out of him, and there it was. Both of us have never moved this fast before. Both of us like eachother. I was even good and kept silent when his parents called while I was there. I'm sure he isn't ready to be teased by them yet. But I hooked him! That was easier than I thought.

Now to just unhook the other guys that are calling me and hitting on me, etc. Derek would be to nervous to say anything to them I'm sure. :) I even told my parents about him. I'm scaring myself.

I really need to call Idaho White tonight.